Help
Sign In
heartache
November 2009 
oh noes... (pls comment)
Posted on Dec 15th, 2008
by 
Harley Quinn
Harley Quinn
Do you ever go to sleep depressed, hoping that when you wake up you'll feel better, and then you wake up and you feel just as bad as the night before? It's those nights that I have the worst dreams.
Have you ever felt your emotions physically? It amazes me how literal the word "heartache" really is. I find myself clutching at my chest and wishing I could take a Tylenol or something.
Have you ever wondered what the point of love is? If we can live without it happily (nuns and monks and hermits?) why do we even bother with relationships? What are romantic relationships for besides reproduction? If you love someone, but don't need to, should you?
If someone you love says that they love you, but doubts if a relationship is "worth it" or "necessary", how do you deal with that? What if the relationship makes perfect sense to you? How do you let go of something like that? How can you understand them? How can you just let them go when you think that they should stay?
How do you get yourself to keep food down when what you're hungry for isn't food?
Have you ever felt your emotions physically? It amazes me how literal the word "heartache" really is. I find myself clutching at my chest and wishing I could take a Tylenol or something.
Have you ever wondered what the point of love is? If we can live without it happily (nuns and monks and hermits?) why do we even bother with relationships? What are romantic relationships for besides reproduction? If you love someone, but don't need to, should you?
If someone you love says that they love you, but doubts if a relationship is "worth it" or "necessary", how do you deal with that? What if the relationship makes perfect sense to you? How do you let go of something like that? How can you understand them? How can you just let them go when you think that they should stay?
How do you get yourself to keep food down when what you're hungry for isn't food?
Access: Public
What am I
I can not be learned
I can not be taught
I can not be purchased at any store
You can only have me when you give me away?
Do you know who i am?
Do you know what i am?
Can you answer this question without reading the answer?
You can’t find me in any religion although
you should always be on the look out for me there.
You can’t learn about me in a book although
you’ll know when I have been there.
I am most certainly not for sell but I do
come at a price. A price that you can’t afford.
I always cost just a little more then you
can afford regardless of your actual wealth.
Amazingly strangers purchase me for you
and want nothing in return.
Some gave all they have for me – * Christ *
He only requested that you take the gift.
My name is love ( specifically serotonin )
You can find me when you have exhausted all resources.
You can find me when you give me away
You can find me when you witness me in strangers eyes
I can be a bit strange – example: You’ll find me with
those that I should not be with – the undeserving people
— the ones that deserve the least.
I hang out with the poor people, the sick people
— the ones that don’t deserve me by the worlds standards.
I am priceless.
I’ve felt my emotions physically…
If a person doesn’t feel a realtionship is “necessary,” it most likely means that they have committment issues. It’s not you, it’s them. You have to ask yourself: how important is that person to you? Love means loving for someone exactly how they are, and not what you hope they become. If this person doesn’t want a relationship, its most likely not going to change in the near future. Can you live with that? Let me warn you, if the answer is yes and you do truly love this person, it will weigh heavily on you emotionally. You’ll doubt yourself… But ask yourself this: Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? Whoever you choose to be with should realize that they are LUCKY to be with you. They should want to shout from the roof tops that you chose them.
Committment issues aren’t easily resolved…and if they’re not your issues, there’s nothing that you can do. You can’t change a person…they can only do that themselves. Don’t let them drag you down in the meantime.
Oh, sweet Siren. I don’t have any answers to your questions (and I think that even if I did, it wouldn’t help; some things are too personal and too unique to generalize, and some discoveries we have to make on our own), but I just wanted to drop by with a heartfelt hug and a word of support for all that you’re struggling with.
And I think your heart knows the right way through, as long as you take the time to listen. :)
Suggestions: Go somewhere interesting with friends. The zoo, or the aquarium, or the mountains. Best if you haven’t been there before or for a while. Feed the ducks.Let your emotions go when you feel like it. Be with people you don’t have to explain yourself to.
You are loved. Let them help.
Elise,
So many friends, so much caring. Actually, Love is a state of being. You can share that state of BEing by being Loving but you really can not “give” Love to anyone else. By the same token, they can not give Love to you, though if they recognize the state of BEing LOVE within themselves, they will act in a loving way towards you that feels good.
One can not insist on Love from another. Unless they give it from the desire of their heart it is useless. The energy of Love feels so very good that when it’s withdraw we feel that and it hurts or feels like something is missing and it is.
In reality, there never is a shortage of love. BE LOVE, feel the state of Love within your self, and act from that feeling and Love from others will be attracted to you. Love will come. Without condition, it comes and its goes, and we have to be grateful that it comes, and know that is not the end of it, more will come just as sure as the Sun rises.
Wishing you filled to overflowing with Love -
Deborah